it's difficult when all you ever knew was to have this one dream, be this one person. when reality hits and what you have disappears, it's traumatic to move on.
nonetheless, life continues, and your family expect you to move on, but how do you do it?
firstly you begin by asking yourself:
1. what's important to you?
you make a list of all the things that you think are important, in any case.. this list should be a priority list of things dear to your heart.
2. are you giving these important things time?
then you figure out how much time you are giving to these important things in your life.
for example, i would assume family would be a priority on a lot of people's list, are you giving family enough time or are you ignoring this key ingredient of life?
3. what do you feel right now? is there something that you can do today to make it better for you?
the next step is to look at your day so far and find out how you can make it better. for example, if you have neglected cleaning your room, or perhaps wanted to do the laundry so that the weekend will be free to do other things.. do it now to free up your time in the future.
4. fill in empty spaces with things you wish to achieve
time you earned from making today better, fill it with what you want to do. it might be a simple art project you have been pondering about, or a gym session you have been eyeing for a while - say yes to new opportunities and fill your time with self developments.
from here you will begin to find your feet again, get out of depression (fingers crossed) and move on to the next chapter of your life.
it's not going to be easy, and i have to admit.. i have never cried so much in my entire life as much as this month. it has been a struggle but all things must pass, and looking back is painful. learn to forgive yourself and accept the past as a lesson, not to repeat the mistakes again.
